A while back I was sent a message that questioned my FB page and my website for how I promote One Girl Trucking. This person thought I was pulling the wool over you, my readers eyes. This person also thinks that I am filling you all full of a bunch of B.S and that in fact I do not live a fairy-tale life. I wasn’t even going to bother with this, but just like this post I kind of get a kick out of people asking and saying stupid things, and since I’m usually stuck in my truck and no one can hear my swear words and rude comments I shout out at the world, I figured I’d share my thoughts here on this subject. And generally it’s even nice.
First and foremost if any of you think I live a fairy-tale life, please contact me at bethany [at] one girl trucking [dot] com because I have a bridge or two with a great view that I would LOVE to sell you. I rebuilt my engine 2x this year, I could use the cash!
I looked up the meaning in merriam’s dictionary for the word FAIRY-TALE, and I’m guessing this person believes I’m guilty of #2….
1 a : a story (as for children) involving fantastic forces and beings (as fairies, wizards, and goblins) —called also fairy story
b : a story in which improbable events lead to a happy ending
2: a made-up story usually designed to mislead
Now, I do not, nor will I ever write about Hubs & my whole life on One Girl Trucking. That is personal, and there is enough hate and discontent in the media to keep anyone entertained for hours and hours if you really want to read about that kind of shit. Also, although Hubs is proud of me and what I do, he really couldn’t care less to be any more a part of this website than he already is. He thinks computers, Facebook, Twitter and everything else that has to do with the subject is stupid (unless he’s watching youtube videos for instructions on how to clean a Northern Pike or ordering chrome for his truck).
That being said, I do not write a ton about Hubs because I solely started One Girl Trucking for two purposes. I get asked almost every day about my life trucking and how I manage a truck, a home life with my husband, farm animals and the rest that keeps me super busy and I do share all of that here. Sadly though, what really started the fire under me for this website is the fact that a drunk woman jumped out in front of my truck-with her kids cheering her on (to prove a point, that she thought I was speeding and that she was going to stop me) and I could not believe anyone would do something like that to another human being, and in front of their kids no less. I was absolutely mortified. I still have nightmares over that one.
As for the fairy-tale:
Growing up I dreamt of having my own truck, and of living on a farm. The only thing I that I can think of that I didn’t get was that I always dreamt I would go from truck show to truck show with my husband in one cool ass truck. Hubs likes to be home, and loves to sleep in his own bed. We both we quite set up when we met, and it would have been foolish to change those things.
Right now, in my eyes, I have the best of both worlds. My husband has a matching truck to mine, (although Rosie is much prettier) and I still get to go trucking. Hubs is very good to me and I love him very much. I successfully run my own business and I live on a beautiful farm. I do love my life.
Although I know Hubs is happy, I will say I know he wanted a wife who was home all the time. He got me instead and it has been an adjustment, but we make it work the best we can.
Our fairy-tale is not a perfect one. Just like every other relationship out there it takes work. A lot of work. And we work hard at everything we do. Hubs and I run two separate trucking businesses out of our home. I’m away from home for a week or more at a time. We have trucks that need work done on them which he does most of the work, animals that need to be taken care of, lawns that need to be mowed, snow in the winter that needs to be removed, and every other duty that comes with living on a farm under the sun. We get things done either together ad a team, or it is left for one or the other of us to do. Sometimes he gets stuck with more than he cares for. And when I’m tired from the road I still come home to the same duties other wives have, minus the snot nosed kids. I cook, I clean, mow lawn, move snow, garden, put up produce, I do the billing for trucks, taxes, I take care of my animals… And on top of that we have arguments, hurt feelings, and every other emotion that is known to man run over or through us at one point or another, depending on the week.
We have full lives, but we work together and honestly that is really what got me to writing this post. A friend on Facebook made a comment when I posted that Hubs was bringing a trailer down to Kansas for me so I could turn around and head back to Arizona again.
He said “Teamwork at it’s best” (Thank you Ken) I couldn’t agree more.
No matter how many disagreements & fights we have had over the years, we have ALWAYS been able to put it aside and work together. We are like two peas in a pod and, like Hubs said last weekend as we were taking a walk in Kansas, we were meant for each other…. Good or bad, bullheaded or strong willed. Filled with grease, oil, chicken poop & dirt. The whole damn works. We were meant for each other.
Our life is not perfect, and I wouldn’t want it to be, because what fun would that be? Nor would I want any of you to think that it was, but it’s as close to a fairy tale as I’m going to get!
About Bethany
You go Bethany. It’s great that you enjoy what you do. And being able to do it along side someone you love just makes it that much better. My “better half” and I live a much different lifestyle than you and “hubs”, but we support each other the same way. She supported me in my last years on active duty, and now it’s my turn to support her. It is all teamwork that makes it work. WLBS
Thank you Ken~ You are right, it’s all about support, even if sometimes you don’t want to. Thank you for the comment!
People who don’t live the life don’t get the life! Keep the fight and do what you do! There are those of us out here who get it because we are also knee deep in a lifestyle that most can’t imagine!
Bill~ Thank you for the comment! I agree we live a life most cannot understand. Thankfully we have each other, or we would really be in a world of hurt!
I just can’t believe that someone would be mean enough to put you down in this snotty arrogant personal attack. Well, yes, I can, and I think this must be a very sad and bitter person. I hope they realize that everyone’s life is full of hard work and everyone has their share of pain. Everyone also has their share of triumphs and joy and happiness, if they care to find them and recognize them. There are so many things we just don’t and never will know about each other, I can’t think why someone would assume you have a ‘fairy tale’ life!! Obviously they have never lived or been on a farm, driven anywhere, owned or worked in a business… I enjoy reading and learning about what you do (and still want to wash your dishes for food) and please don’t stop writing!
I forgot to mention that my hubs and I have been together for 31 years, and life ain’t perfect but it’s still darn great! He has supported me through 5 years of years of working and living different places, 5 years of night shifts, kids, cats, in-laws, cancer, in-laws, more relatives, and many more ups and downs. Here’s to fantastic partners!
You go, girl! Your life is your life and you are as honest and revealing on your blog/FB as you feel comfortable being (and that is just fine). Your blog is mostly about OGT, your life, and the farm, not specifically Hubs. Whenever you do mention Hubs, it is in a partnership, helping, teamwork kind of way (which is very cool, not everyone gets to experience that kind of love/partnership)…
It’s crazy that someone would criticize your blog/FB – it’s your prerogative, you get to write and promote whatever you want. I suspect that whoever criticized you is not very happy with their own life – and those people usually try to put others down and make them as miserable as they are.
Keep doing what you are doing! Peace.
Wow. So this worthless person has the balls to suggest that you are trying to portray a fairy tale life. I guess you shouldn’t tell us about motors blowing up then, and ducks getting killed, and all the other bad stuff that you write about. I’m also guessing that this person thinks that we (because it sounded as if they were speaking for us) thought you toldare us EVERY good, bad, or ugly thing thatI’ve goes on that goes on in your life. Speaking for people withh a brain, we all know you have a private life. You deserve one just like the rest of us.
Bethany I have more respect for you because you DON’T share parts of your life. Writing,teaching people, and showing the life of a trucker is one thing and a good thing. Turning it into a circus justfor the ratings or to grab peoples attension is another. Like everyone else said; you go girl and please don’t stop writing!
there’s a word for people like him but Mum said I’m not to use
Hi Bethany, it is amazing how some people think that truckers live in a fairy tale world. my husband and I went through that last year when his son’s mother made a comment on Facebook stating that it must be nice for us to be out living the dream and not have a care in the world. It was posted in sarcasm and to those who don’t live on the road it is anything but living the dream. I love going with my husband out on the road but people don’t realize that your showering in truck stops that at times are not the best, you are eating sometimes the truck stop foods, dealing with 4 wheelers who don’t know how to drive around a big truck. You are away from your family and sleeping in a confined place. So for those who think that trucking is a “fairy tale” or ” living the dream” perhaps they should go out on the road and see what the truckers go thru.